Well, if there's any upside...this essay is one I'd use in our program with incarcerated young men. We dig deep into this behaviour. If there's any hope in the world, it is amazingly among this population who are driven to learn how to adjust masculinity to be better men. Some men are just lost. Even as a normally raging warrior, oppression training kicks in, and in these situations i just seethe and take it. We can't win with a response, they own the narrative. So working with the future generations to erase it is my superpower. Better to walk away and live to fight another day...I alone own the hill i will die on.